#like. I know im aro

[threecatsinpajamas]

being aro doesn't make navigating romance any easier btw.

[jamierthanyou]

as an aroace, im particularly dangerous, because i wont fuck or marry. i only know how to kill.

[amalgamezz]

ALT

[tobercat]

aro/ace themed valentine's day teddy bears ^^ because i just recently found out i might be arospec but also just cuz like..... why not

[toupee-or-nottoupee]

my favorite ship dynamic is "I've had to watch you go into the path of no return and I love you" and its just blonde boys watching dark haired guys literally make the worst decisions known to man

[wandering-aloneo-o]

love getting hit on and immediately after telling them im aroace they say:

GET ME OUT OF HERE

[altschmerzes]

honestly i just think I will fundamentally never understand the very common (and sometimes posited as universal which i don’t love) sentiment among aromantic people/communities that like. oh one part of aromanticism is Not Understanding Or Caring About Or Getting The Point Of the line between friendship and romance, the distinction of different types of relationship. because for me as an aromantic person that line and distinction is actually Extremely important and clear and it feels… weird and bad to consistently see it posited as this like. Prominent Aro Thing to not understand/care about that.

ACTIONS will never inherently be allotted to one type of relationship or another, and the only feeling that is inherently romantic is romantic attraction/love, but the like. labeling itself of relationships and feelings and actions based on the person or people involved… idk. THAT is very important to me. it is Very Important to me that it’s extremely clear that none of my relationships or actions or feelings are or ever will be romantic and it’s important to me that those labels are seen and respected. it’s important to me in my personal life, and it’s reflectively important to me in the stories i tell and the ones i interact with.

idk. people are obviously welcome to the sentiment and i dont begrudge them having it and maybe im misunderstanding what this means when people say it. but it does make me feel a little anxious and once again the odd guy out in my own community to constantly be seeing this posited as like. An Inherently Aromantic Quality to not understand the difference between types of relationship or the point in differentiating. it will always be critically important to me that romance has and will have no place in my life or relationships. once i learned it was possible not to feel romantic feelings or attraction - and i accepted that it was true for me - everything became very clear to me at that point. ‘how do you Know’ i just know. I Just Know. and that matters to me.

[contagious-watermelon]

straight trans guys & aro trans guys solidarity. weird that my whole life I've been expected to be into dudes and now that I'm a guy the lgbts also want me to be into dudes or else they don't really think of me as one of them

and while I'm not attracted to anybody and straight trans dudes are attracted to women, i feel like we're in the same boat here. too queer for the straights and too straight for the queers

[stiffyck]

I WISH ARO HEADCANONS WERE MORE POPULAR IN FANDOMS

[cosmicredcadet]

I'm going to explode every writer that uses romantic love as character development. I'm so tired of "They aren't interested in dating" being used as a flaw that needs to be fixed by making the character fall in love with someone.

[jojoturnip]

I can feel the bitchy aroace inside of me getting angry about dating again. Someone remove all romcoms within a 12 mile radius of my vicinity or they will certainly implode

[nyancrimew]

I don’t know whether I’m on the aromantic spectrum or polyamorous. It’s really hard to tell when you’re extremely autistic and also can’t rely on “well, romance is limited to one person at a time”.

i used to struggle w that too tbh, but now im like poly and while romance is still a bit confusing and complicated esp w mental health i think that was the right choice for me personally and ill slowly figure myself out and always try to be clear about how i can be potentially confusing in romantic relationships before i start any.

[atalana]

supergiant you can't keep toying with my heart like this re: aro mel

[sunsetcurveauto]

one thing i havent seen anyone talking about when discussing isaac is when he meets james at the bookstore and they talk abt how isaac doesnt reciprocate james' feelings. and although james has the best intentions he tells isaac that (more or less) isaac just hasnt found the right person yet. and yeah isaac doesnt have the words or terminology at that point to express how he feels being aroace but it was still such a gut punch to see an example of someone who cares for you, even someone in the queer community, still negate your orientation using a phrase that is meant to be an assurance and yet is still what so many ace and aro people have been told

[mossy-aro]

why do allos insist on viewing relationships in the most boring ways imaginable

[nachosforfree]

Shout out to aro people who DO show little emotion, who do have low empathy, who are monotonous, who do relate to robotic characters on a level other than the fact robot characters often don't feel romantic attraction